Disorder without a cure : The constant battle with mental illness

Mental illnesses are one of the hardest things to conquer.

Imagine waking up and having to fight your mind to keep yourself alive. When the voice in your head features a death wish, or other hatred of yourself. Imagine your only enemy being yourself. That’s what it’s like to live with a mental illness, and they don’t understand.

The number of times I’ve heard get over it, or stop being a baby or you’re crazy or insane is far too many. People think that we choose this life, that we choose to be different, unstable and emotional. We don’t, just like Cancer or Parkinson’s it’s not a choice. The only choice we have is to get help, which they also think is a piece of cake but it isn’t.

Mental illness is a long hard struggle that many face and overcoming it if that is an option is hard, and dealing with it is just as hard. You try therapy, friends, blogs, reaching out to those who are like you, doctors, psychiatrists, hospitalization, and medicine but here you are still struggling.

I found the video above to be a perfect way of describing it to someone. It resonated with me so I thought I’d share for any of you struggling to put it in to words. Stay strong and know that there are others like you out there .
-E.

Live: Hardships and Troubles: How to Move Forward

One of the hardest things we as human beings have to face; is emotions. Emotions can change us, control us, and even break us if we give them the power to do so. Although losing someone is hard, going on without them is harder, and that’s what brings me to write this blog. How do we move forward in life without them here, how do we get up each day knowing they can’t, its hard. As I have faced a lot of loss I have learned ways to breakthrough the pain and I will share them with you.

1) Acceptance

The most important thing we must do after losing someone in order to move forward is accept the fact that they are gone. If we cannot accept the loss, then we will never be able to move forward . Tell yourself these things happen, it is neither yours nor their fault, and there is no way to bring them back; so we must accept the loss.

2) Finding Happiness

When we lose someone we are overcome with pain, regret, and sadness; through all this though we must find how to be happy again. Write a list of things that made you happy prior to the loss, whether it be sports, science or writing think of ways to keep your self happy and slowly move from this lull.

3)  Remembering, not forgetting

One of the most important parts of loss that many people do wrong is the act of remembrance. When we are in pain we try to make it go away and some people think the best way to do this is by getting rid of what causes us pain. For example throwing out clothes, pictures or souvenirs related to the loss. The worst way to move forward is by getting rid of everything, this will not bring the person back or rid of the memories, you must accept the loss and by clearing what remains of that being away, you are not accepting it.

4)  Moving forward, not moving on

When I wrote the rough draft of this blog I used the words moving on, it was not until I read it through that I realized that was a poor word choice on my part. We do not want to move on, moving on means throwing it away, putting it in the past and leaving it there; whereas moving forward it more positive, accepting what has happened and finding a way to deal.

“move on: to stop doing or dealing with something and start doing something else” (bing/encarta dictionaries)

“move forward:develop in a positive way” (http://dictionary.sensagent.com/move%20forward/en-en/)

Now moving forward does not mean erasing that persons existence, as they did live and thrive, but it means not letting the loss demobilize you any longer. Find ways to continue your life not dwelling in the past but not erasing it either. Slowly add things to your daily life to keep you busy, happy and focused

5) ‘You’ time

Dedicate time to making yourself feel better whether it be a bath, spa day, or even just buying that item you’ve been wanting for a while, by doing things for you to make you happy is not selfish it is sometimes needed.

6) Be Patient

Moving forward is not an easy thing to do at all it will not take a day it can take years but as long as you are trying, moving forward is possible.

If any of you have any other advice on getting through hard times feel free to share what helped you.

“Grief is like an ocean; it comes on in waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim.” -Vicki Harrison.

-E.